One thing that I used to struggle with the most (and still do at times) is my confidence. I was the person who preferred to sit alone because I was so shy and didn’t want to have to interact with others. But then I realized how much I actually love making genuine connections with other people! Over time, I have implemented habits in my life that have helped me grow my confidence and feel much more comfortable with myself and interacting with others!
Here are the 5 habits that have effected me the most:
1. Expressing Gratitude Towards the World and Myself.
Finding three things to be grateful for each morning is a very common practice and one that many people do but I put a little twist on mine. Each morning when I wake up, not only do I find three things that I am thankful for, I also find one thing about myself that I love too! This has helped build my confidence on so many levels! Most of the time, we criticize ourselves and focus on what we could have done differently or better but the practice of finding one thing I like about myself each morning has made me much happier with the person that I am.
For example, this morning I was proud of myself for going to a yoga class for the first time by myself (a big accomplishment for me!). Other days, it may be as simple as “I like my hair.” The important part is to see yourself in a positive way each day to start building your own confidence.
2. Self-Care and Pampering
Another habit that has improved my confidence levels is actually taking the time to take care of myself each day. The main way I do this is through my morning routine. My morning routine is full of self-care activities including journaling, reading, sitting in front of my light therapy lamp (especially in the winter), and a series of ayurveda rituals (including dry brushing, tongue scraping, and oil-massaging). This morning ritual ensures that I spend each morning taking care of myself so I can be in a good mood for the rest of the day.
I also love painting my nails and doing my make-up occasionally as well. When my nails looks all fancy, it makes me happy, so I try to have them painted as much as possible. I’ve also noticed that as much as I love doing my make-up, it is now more of a treat rather than a chore. I used to be self-conscious without make-up but now I typically do not wear it on an everyday basis because I’ve grown to like how I look naturally. Now, I wear make-up when I feel like being “fancy” but not to hide myself.
Exercising also increases my confidence levels for many different reasons. The first and obvious one is that the more you exercise, typically the more in shape you are, but there is so much more to it than that. When I exercise, the endorphins that are released put me in a better mood throughout the day which raises my overall vibration and my confidence. I notice that the happier I am, the easier it is to be confident and also connect with other people.
Exercise also gives me more energy and helps me to not feel bloated or groggy. When I feel good physically, I feel good mentally and have more confidence! Plus, I get to be proud of myself for sticking to my routine and make new friends in the process by going to classes or the gym!
4. Accepting Compliments
This habit is probably one of the most difficult but important ones. We, especially as females, are conditioned to downplay our achievements and block compliments. For example, when someone compliments my work on a project and I come back with “oh, it was simple” even though I worked really hard on it, or when someone says I look pretty and I reply with “no way, I just rolled out of bed!” By deflecting compliments, you minimize your own achievements.
Now, I try my best to accept any compliment that someone gives me and just say “thank you.” It sounds simple, but when I do not deflect compliments, I am actually able to agree with what the other person said and soak it in a little more. It actually is okay to feel proud of something you worked hard on and it is okay to feel pretty whether you put work into it or not! Once I started fully accepting my compliments, I was able to become way more confident with myself!
5. Celebrating My Accomplishments
This habit is similar to accepting compliments but a little different because it doesn’t have to involve anyone else. I don’t know about you, but I’m the type of person that once I accomplish something I am already focusing on the next big goal or task at hand. We often focus on all of the things we need to do or didn’t get to yet, but seldom focus on everything we have accomplished so far. It’s important to celebrate wins just as much as it is important to plan for more wins!
For example, at the end of 2017, I went through and listed everything that I accomplished throughout the year, and that list was long! But before I made the list, I had forgotten all about those things and was only thinking about things I wish I had accomplished. Before I made that list, I was worried that I wasn’t as far as I should be or I didn’t do as much as other people but after I made the list, I was astonished at how far I had come in just one year and encouraged to keep going! Now, I have an accomplishment board to put big things on which encourages me to keep doing things that will add to it.
All five of these habits have made me happier, healthier, and more confident in myself and how I interact with other people. Of course, I still have work to do but like I said, it’s important to celebrate how far you have come! I hope these habits and tips can help you grow your own confidence and love for yourself!
Mindset & Habit Coach