Your self-talk has much more influence on your daily emotions than most people realize. One thing that I continuously try to improve on is keeping my thoughts and reactions positive at all times. This is not always easy. The most important thing to remember is that we all have 100% control over the thoughts and reactions that we have each and every day. Here are some tips that I have found helpful in keeping my mind positive.
1. Focus on the present
Every negative emotion that you have comes from either the past or the future so if you focus more on the present moment, you will have less negativity. For example, if you have regret then you are focused on the past. If you are anxious about something, you are most likely focused on the future. If you are angry or upset, you are typically thinking about an occurrence that happened in the past. If you are afraid, you are thinking about something that may or may not happen in the future. In order to remove these negative emotions, you can change your thoughts to think about the present moment. I notice that when I am more focused on the present moment, I become more positive and have less negative emotions.
2. Understand that your emotions come from your interpretations
You may think that other people are the cause of your emotions, positive or negative, but the truth is our emotions come from the interpretations that we tell ourselves in response to other’s actions. Have you ever noticed that you react differently to the same actions coming from the same people based on your mood? This is because every time a person takes an action, we tell ourselves a story in order to interpret that action. If your thoughts are negative, than you will most likely chose a negative story to tell yourself about why that person did what they did. However, if your thoughts are positive, you will have an entirely different story. I think this is freeing in itself because I can decide how any person will affect my emotions by changing the story I tell myself. Rather than telling yourself that person was rude because they were personally attacking you, change the story to they are just having a bad day or are stressed out and you will be able to let it go much faster.
3. Look at failure and struggle as opportunities
It is often hard to stay positive during times of failure. The best thing that you can do is look at every failure as a learning opportunity or another door opening. Each time you encounter a failure, you either will learn something to help you succeed in the future, or your failure will lead you to try something new that ends up being better anyways. A great belief to adopt is that there is no such thing as failure, only learning ways that do not work in order to help you figure out what will. When one thing doesn’t work, try something else. Hard times and struggles are inevitable but if you learn to look at them as opportunities, they become a little less daunting.
Make sure to take time for yourself in the morning before you start your day. Think of it like this: every day you wake up with an empty bowl that will be filled with energy. If you fill it up with positive energy before you even leave your house, there will be no room for other’s negative energy to come in. If you do not start your morning by filling yourself with positive energy, then you will be susceptible to the energy that you encounter throughout the day, and there is a good change there is some negativity in that mix.
The most important thing to remember is that you can chose and you can change your thoughts. If you want to start living a life full of positivity, the first step is to change your thoughts because what you think about has a huge influence on your life.
I hope this helps keep your thoughts on the positive side! Please leave a comment and let me know what you find the most beneficial in staying positive!