27 Feb

Why I Wasn’t Wrong About My Future, I Only Misinterpreted

jennifer merchant, mindset and habit coach, life coach, how to find your path

It has been my dream since I was a little kid to work in hospitality. I wanted to be surrounded with positive energy, fun times, and vacationers all the time!

And I did it! I got my undergraduate degree in Business Management and set my heart on an Ivy League grad program at the top hotel school in the country. I worked my but off, graduated with my Bachelor’s a year early, and I got accepted to my dream school for early admission! The only thing left was to get the two years of required experience so I could start the program.

A piece of cake right? And it was.

I applied to a beautiful 4-diamond hotel charging upwards of $300/night (and in rural upstate NY, that is a lot!). The hotel was fully booked almost every single day during their season with vacationers from all over the world.

You would think this would be a dream come true for me considering that’s what I wanted since I was a child.

Spoiler alert! I hated it.

I hated having to use a script to communicate with the guests.

I hated the way I was looked down on by the majority of the patrons.

I hated not being able to get the time off for vacation with my own family.

I hated the schedule that I worked and how I frequently missed important family occasions, including holidays.

And most of all, I hated the shallow connections I made with the guests.

I would put all of this effort to make sure the guests would have a great stay and then the next day or the next week, they were gone. No real connections were made. No real, lasting friendships were made. Even if I made a good impression, I wasn’t leaving any impact on their lives, at least not in a way that I felt mattered.

And if I’m not making genuine connections or leaving a lasting impact, then what’s the point?

You see, I realized that I was drawn to hospitality because of the deep down feeling I have that I want to serve others and leave a lasting impact on their lives. The only thing that made sense to me in order to do that was hospitality at the time.

Now, I know what I am truly meant to do. I am here to serve others by helping them achieve their dreams from implementing and taking daily actions that support their goals.

Instead of serving people for one night or one week, I now make genuine connections, lasting friendships, and leave a lasting impact on the lives of my clients that I feel good about.

Needless to say, I turned down my acceptance to my dream school and am now pursuing a path that makes me feel truly alive and significant!

The point is that while it is important to follow your heart, it’s also okay to misinterpret what it’s trying to tell you every now and again as long you realize it and make the proper adjustments to get back on track!

When I look back, I can see that hospitality and coaching are not really all that different. They both focus on serving others and they both require connecting with others. I was pulled towards hospitality because I wanted to be able to serve others and make an impact on their lives. But I didn’t feel like I was making much of an impact. Most of the people forgot who I was as soon as they left the counter. Did I make connections with some of the guests? Yes. But not in a way that felt good to me.

I want to be able to make genuine connections, create lasting friendships, and truly impact the lives of others in a good way. And I want it to be in a way that feels good for both parties.

So even though I was pulled towards hospitality and realized it was not the right thing for me, I now know that I wasn’t exactly wrong about what I wanted to do and become, I only misinterpreted. I am still driven by the same things but have been able to find a better path for myself that feels right!

Mindset & Habit Coach

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